Most people can take feedback and apply it. I find some people just give feedback poorly and equate that to others not taking feedback.

These people usually think there preferred feedback is the best way so therefore everyone should feel the same way and if they don’t the other person needs to change.

They are of course wrong. But if you tell them this, they demonstrate why I use the word “most” in the opening sentence.

> I find some people just give feedback poorly and equate that to others not taking feedback.

Too true! I find it helps if I think of it as an engineering problem: "what can I say that will make these people not commit the same error again?" A bit dehumanizing and manipulative, but can be super effective at shifting away from blaming and belittling (almost never works), and towards mentoring.